Things Powerful People Never Say

At times during your spiritual awakening, you are often brought face to face with your deepest insecurities and patterns of seeking external validation.

If you’re finding yourself caught up in this cycle of external validation, it might be time to shift how you engage with yourself and the world around you.

When you stop looking for external validation and cease asking for opinions or permission from others, you unlock the portal to your true self.

This shift is transformative, and it begins with the simple act of changing the questions you ask yourself.

Here are three common phrases that powerful people NEVER say, and how to transform them to better reflect your authentic self:

1. “What should I wear tonight?”

It’s better to ask yourself: “What do I want to wear tonight?”

When you ask others for advice on something as personal as your attire, you’re handing over your power. Your clothes are a form of your own self-expression, and only you know how you truly feel in them. Instead of seeking validation, tune into your own desires and preferences.

This simple shift helps you reconnect with your inner voice and take ownership of your choices.

2. “Do you think I said the right thing?”

It’s better to ask yourself: “What is the truth I really need to express right now?”

Worrying about whether you’ve said the right thing often stems from a desire for approval. It stems from insecurity and powerful people address this issue so they can be more in tune with themselves. Instead, focus on the truth you need to express in the moment.

Trust yourself. Your authentic voice is valid and powerful and needs to come out. By prioritizing your truth over others’ opinions, you activate your inner power and begin to feel strong in your experience.

3. “What should I do to fix this?”

It’s better to ask yourself: “What are three choices I can make to best respond in this situation?”

When faced with a challenge, the urge to seek external solutions can undermine your own confidence. Instead of looking outside, yet again, for answers, consider your own genius. You are actually the carrier of all your inner answers. Everything you need lies in you. And it’s in the situations that you get the opportunity to check in with yourself and find resonates.

Identifying multiple choices will empower you to see what feels best for you. This kind of practice leads you back inwards, into your internal strength where YOU know, what feels aligned and what feels off. It’s all about trusting this after you find it.

This approach of going to yourself first and getting in alignment with your inner voice fosters a deeper connection with your inner guidance and reduces reliance on others’ input.

You Have the Power of Choice

Your power lies in your ability to choose. Each decision you make reflects your energy and shapes your experience in this world. When you allow others to dictate your choices, you will eventually feel exhausted, depleted, and disrespected.

This pattern can come from a poor self-concept—believing that someone else knows better than you do.

To break this cycle, begin by asking yourself the right questions. Instead of looking to others for validation, turn inward and connect with what you truly feel and think. This shift helps you make decisions from a place of authenticity, rather than conformity.

I understand that breaking free from the pattern of seeking external validation is easier said than done. It can be a deeply ingrained habit, but it is entirely possible to overcome!

I’ve personally witnessed hundreds of students in our Spiritual Life Coach Certification transform their relationship with external validation and come home to their innate power.

Each time, it is a celebration of their Divine return to their soul, where their self owns their power.

Follow Your Heart

Remember, the journey to being truly powerful and authentic starts with following your heart.

Learn to fill your own cup and embrace your unique truth. There is no one else on this planet who can be you, and that is your greatest strength.

If you are ready to truly overcome your people pleasing habits, codependency, and being an approval junkie, I invite you to heal with us in our Spiritual Life Coach Certification.

This curriculum Is designed to help you connect deeply with your inner self, clear away self-doubt, and reinforce your power to make choices from a place of authenticity.

By going through this course, you’ll find greater clarity and confidence in your decisions and a stronger connection to your true self. You can begin with our free masterclass here.

By Sophie Frabotta, M.A.
Author,Certified Spiritual Life Coach, Healer

I am a heart-centered, soul leader who is so honored to be doing this work. With over 10,000 hours of 1-1 experience, a leader in the field of Spiritual Life Coaching, and a Globally recognized Spiritual Life Coach Certification – I teach students the depth of real transformation in a way that most have never seen. Having transformed my own body, mind and spirit, I am honored to take you into your inner chamber, show you how to lift out of karmic soul wounds and stabilize your higher vibration in 5D.

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